Experience Makers, I’m so glad you’re here. I want you to know that this space is just for you. Right now, in this moment, I’m speaking directly to you—the woman who is carrying the weight of emotional exhaustion in her relationship. The woman who’s giving and giving, but feeling like her heart is running on empty. The one who’s so tired, so drained, that sometimes it feels like you don’t have the strength to even ask for what you need anymore.
Maybe you’re at a point where you feel like there’s no energy left to give. Maybe you’ve tried to show up for your partner in every way you can, but every day feels like it’s taking a little bit more from you, and you’re not sure how much you have left to give. You’ve been giving emotionally, physically, mentally, and somehow, there’s this quiet ache that keeps growing, and no matter what you do, you can’t fill it. You feel like your heart is running on fumes, and you can’t keep pretending that everything is okay when you’re feeling so empty inside.
I know what this feels like. I know that overwhelming sense of just being done. And I’m here to tell you that you are not alone.
Let’s sit in this feeling for a moment, okay? I want you to really feel it. The exhaustion in your body. The weight of trying to keep everything together. The constant emotional labor that no one really sees—the emotional weight of being the listener, the caretaker, the one who holds it all when everyone else can’t or won’t. Maybe you’ve tried to express how you’re feeling, but it feels like no one understands, or worse, no one listens.
And so, you keep going. You push through. You keep the ball rolling, because what other choice do you have? There’s always something that needs your attention, someone who needs you. But each time you give a little bit more, you lose a little bit more of yourself. You lose your energy. Your peace. Your sense of calm. You might start to feel like a stranger to yourself—like who you were before all this, before you gave so much to everyone else, has slowly slipped away.
It’s that feeling of constantly being on. Of never getting a break from the emotional weight you carry. Of feeling like you’re emotionally drained by the time you reach the end of the day, but then still having to give just a little more. To your partner. To your family. To everyone who relies on you. It feels like you’re pouring from an empty cup, and no one seems to notice or care that you’re running dry.
And then there’s this. This feeling of isolation. Even though you’re in a relationship, sometimes it can feel like you’re going through everything alone. You’re there. You’re doing all the things. You’re present. But there’s this quiet distance between you and your partner, a disconnect that makes you wonder if they even notice how much you’re carrying. How much you need.
How often have you looked at your partner, just hoping they’d see how tired you are? Hoping they’d realize that you’re not okay, but they don’t. They don’t see it, or maybe they just don’t know what to do with it. And so, you end up carrying it all in silence. The emotional exhaustion, the weight of unspoken words, the longing for someone to ask, “How are you really doing?”
You don’t want to burden them. You don’t want to make them feel bad. But it feels unfair, doesn’t it? To be expected to be strong all the time, to have to keep the smile on your face, to keep up the act that everything is fine when inside you’re so drained, so completely worn out, that the thought of giving more feels impossible.
You might even start to wonder if this exhaustion is normal. If this is just what relationships are supposed to be like. Maybe you tell yourself that everyone feels this way. That it’s part of being in a partnership. But deep down, you know it’s not just about the tasks and the responsibilities and the routines. It’s about you. It’s about how you feel. And right now, you’re so tired. So emotionally spent. You can’t keep pretending that you’re fine when you’re really not.
It’s exhausting, isn’t it? To feel like you’re always the one holding the emotional load. To be the one who makes sure everyone is okay, who carries the weight of the emotional work, who takes care of the feelings and the moods and the needs of everyone around you. But when it comes to your own emotions, your own needs, it feels like no one notices. It’s like you’re invisible in your own relationship, unseen for the emotional work you do, for the love you give, for the care you offer.
It can make you question everything, can’t it? You start to wonder if maybe it’s your fault. Maybe you’re not being clear enough. Maybe you’re not asking for help the right way. Maybe you’re just being too sensitive. But the truth is, you’re not being too anything. You’re simply tired. And your heart—your heart is aching for someone to notice that. For someone to care enough to say, “I see you. I see how much you’re carrying, and I want to help. I want to be there for you the way you’re there for everyone else.”
Sometimes, when we’re emotionally exhausted, we stop asking for what we need. Maybe you’ve reached a point where you don’t even know how to ask anymore. You’ve tried before, and it didn’t work. Or maybe, you’ve gotten used to being the strong one—the one who holds everything together—even when you feel like you’re falling apart on the inside.
It’s okay to admit that you can’t keep going at this pace. It’s okay to feel like you need a break. It’s okay to feel like you need more than just the tasks and the day-to-day responsibilities in your relationship. You deserve to feel seen in the most profound way. You deserve to feel heard. And love, I want you to understand this—just because you’re exhausted doesn’t mean you’re weak. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed. You are carrying so much, and sometimes, the weight of it can be overwhelming. But that doesn’t mean you don’t matter.
Your feelings matter. Your emotional needs matter. You matter.
I want you to give yourself permission to feel what you’re feeling. You’ve been so focused on everyone else’s needs, so concerned with keeping everything in motion, that you’ve forgotten to check in with yourself. You’ve forgotten to ask yourself, “Am I okay?” You’ve been so busy holding everything up, that you’ve stopped asking for help, stopped asking for support.
But love, you deserve to be held, too. You deserve to be supported. You deserve to be cared for, the way you care for others. And I know, I know it can feel like you’re invisible sometimes. But I see you. I hear you. I understand the depth of what you’re going through, the weight of the emotional labor, the constant exhaustion.
You are not alone in this. Even when it feels like no one sees how much you’re giving. Even when it feels like your exhaustion is invisible. You are not invisible.
You are so strong. You are so resilient. But that strength doesn’t mean you have to keep everything together by yourself. You don’t have to carry this alone. It’s okay to rest. It’s okay to ask for help. And it’s okay to acknowledge that you’re tired. Because that’s what I’m hearing from you. I’m hearing the quiet cry of your exhaustion, the gentle plea for someone to notice. And I want you to know, love, that I’m here with you. I see the weight of your heart, and I’m holding space for you in this moment.
You don’t need to keep pretending. You don’t need to keep going without the care you deserve. You’re worthy of the same love and care you give so freely to everyone else. And I want you to know that, even in this moment, even when you feel so drained, you are enough. You are loved. And you are doing the best you can.
Thank you for being here with me. Thank you for taking the time to listen to your heart and to feel what you’re feeling. I’m holding you in this moment. Always.
